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The Dynamics of Social Media & Influence: Reciprocity

Is it possible that the theory of reciprocity when transformed to the social web in direct relation to power and influence, is actually not done in the spirit of which the framework it was created but actually a cheap, fast, and easy way to get people to do what you want them to do, versus what the true spirit of reciprocity is?

Have you received a compliment on a new haircut, a t-shirt, or purse? Have you ever desired to return a compliment and so you scramble to find something to compliment the compliment-er? That is the power, good or bad, of reciprocity. You feel the need to 'pay' the person back either with a compliment, gift, or service later on.

Reciprocity comes in cultural and social aspects. For instance, if your neighbor asked you for a cup of sugar, you wouldn't deny them of sugar because you know that somehow, someway you will lock yourself out or need to borrow something from the neighbor later on.

The social norm of reciprocity is the expectation that people will respond to each other in similar ways (Wiki).

But you should not give to get. That is selfish. In life, you should expect nothing back when you give. The true spirit of reciprocity allows you to give, knowing that you may need that person sometime down the line. That is not too off from what Jesus teaches as the golden rule: Treat others as you would like to be treated.

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We all have Facebook. Some of us tweet. Social media has created another community within the confines of the web.

You retweet things you like that other people said. You 'like' statuses that are funny and informing.

Do you retweet to get a retweet back? Do you 'like' something so they can 'like' something you said back?

Web reciprocity is a short term thing. There is no skin involved. Reciprocity, in the neighbor context above, is for the long term.

 

Is your reciprocity genuine through the mediums of social media? Can reciprocity ever be?

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Occupation Nation

Occupy Wall Street

Is Government failing its people? Should Government have the ability to fail its people?

Is Big Business failing its people?

Is Occupy about the money? or about the system?

Is the current system broken?

Is it the Government's job to protect, care, and nurture the people? Or is that our job?

This is not an issue of Capitalism. It is an issue of corruption. The corruption of a few.

This is a 21st Century revolution. Good? Bad?

listen.

read.

read some more.

Where do you stand? Or should we be standing together?

Everyone should get this book.

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God Will Provide the Food, But He Will Not Cook the Dinner

Great excerpt from the book Forget Selling on how our own perception is the window to opportunity or the road block that traps us.

An experience Gandhi had when discovering his purpose and developing his vision well illustrates the Law of Attraction. When a man arrived from a distant country and volunteered to join Gandhi, he asked Gandhi if he was surprised at his unplanned appearance. Gandhi simply replied, "When a person discovers what is right and purposeful, and begins to pursue it, the necessary people and resources tend to appear, as if attracted to the cause." Gandhi is a supreme example of influence and resonance, for he never had any official position in government or business, had no wealth, and commanded no armies. However, he influenced, mobilized, inspired, and transformed millions of people.

The power of expectation is revealed in numerous studies with varying names. Most people are familiar with the Placebo, the Pygmalion, and the Halo Effects which all verify the power of expectation and suggestion. In the 1970s, psychologist Dr. Robert Rosenthal revealed how the expectation of one can alter the behavior of another. Students of the same IQ were randomly divided into two groups and teachers were told that one group was gifted and had high IQs, and that the other group was dull and had low IQs. After only eight months, the supposedly high IQ group performed at an A level while the supposedly low IQ group performed at a D level. The only variable in the study was that of the expectations of the teachers involved.

There are numerous studies in medicine where the Placebo Effect has, in some cases, been more effective than the medication given after negative side effects of the medication were taken into account. Studies have shown that people often get better just making an appointment with their doctor. They continue to improve and symptoms subside even while sitting in the waiting room. I guess if they wait long enough, they may not even need to see the doctor. Now, that's a clever way to cut healthcare costs. In another study, doctors performed a false surgery for breast implants, and although there was no actual surgery, the breasts were increased because of the patient's expectations. In the Korean War, there was a shortage of morphine to relieve the pain of suffering soldiers. Thus, doctors gave sugar pills and suggested that their pain would soon be relieved and approximately 25 percent of the soldiers reported a reduction in pain.

Your brain is not your mind, but your mind's instrument, just as your body is the instrument through which thoughts and feelings are expressed. Your mind is the envelope of the soul. A positive, confident, expectant mind renders you receptive to creative forces. It is because of the receptive nature of this divine creative faculty that thoughts are manifested and you become unstoppable. Faith is the unseen world and thought that gives substance to things unseen. You can actually think of only one thing at a time, thus, you cannot have positive thoughts as negative words are spoken. Select your words carefully for they predict your future success.

Elizabeth Browning states, "We carry within us the wonders we seek without us." However, all of life's forces can only manifest to the degree that you confidently believe that they can and will materialize. The intricate reciprocity of your mind and the Universal Mind is the key factor to how and when we blossom. This integral relationship was confirmed by Genevieve Behrend in her interviews with Judge Thomas Troward at the turn of the century, "God will provide the food, but He will not cook the dinner." Co-dependent relationships don't work in life nor in the symbolic world. Things are symbols, and it is important to remember that the thing symbolized is more important than the symbol itself. Remember also that the mind is not fickle. If you start and end your day with a well-directed meditation, but the rest of your day is filled with fear and anxiety, you are sabotaging your success. Judge Troward continues to explain to his pupil that "will" is a thought stabilizer and holds a thought to a given purpose until it is consummated or manifested. He insisted that you get into the spirit of your desire. "The spirit of a thing is that which is the source of its inherent movement."

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Excellence in the Ordinary

'We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.' - Aristotle

'Excellence is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well.' - John W Gardner

'The people that win are those that have excellence in the ordinary.' - Unknown

ordinary: commonly encountered; usual. Of no exceptional ability, degree, or quality; average. the stuff you do daily

This is kind of a paraphrase to one of Dave Ramsey's podcast rants. I totally agree. He can be a little much at times.

Do ordinary stuff everyday with Excellence! Stop your whining. Grow some and get to work!

  • It's hard to execute the excellence in the ordinary when the suns out and the surf is up
  • It's hard when you had a fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband & go to work and smile and do your work with excellence
  • It's hard when there is only an hour left on Friday
  • It's hard when you're sick (actually you should be at home)
  • It's hard when you've not slept enough the last week
  • It's hard when your vacation/event/party is looming
  • It's hard when you're broke
  • People can do it in flashes, but its hard for people to do it every single day, day in and day out.
  • You control your attitude. Unless you are a child. There are 33 year old children that cant control themselves. They have a temper. Everyone they turnaround they cuss somebody. Every time they turnaround they roll their eyes, they never have anything good to say to anybody. And then they cant figure out why they cant prosper.

Can you do it every single day, every single hour, every single minute? It is training, training your mind. It is behavior. It is your decision. These decisions become your habit. Habits with your employees, employer, spouse, friends, family. If one minute you are smiling and the next minute you are cussing out your employees, and then you cant figure out why they dont work hard.... you are not a leader. It is not hard to figure out. Nobody wants to follow somebody who is bipolar and cant make up their mind if they are a good guy or not. IT ISNT  HARD. but it is hard. It isnt hard to grasp what we are doing, but it is hard to be have excellence. Do the ordinary things, every single day, every single time. with excellence. Excellence with the ordinary.

(This will give you energy. Energy to win in Finance, Business, Family, Friends, Relationships, you name it. There is no energy in losing.) Think about it.

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